Monday, July 15, 2013

Choose Your Friends Wisely

You can say a lot about Kelvin Redd (I know, third person), but you can never say that you've seen me hanging around the wrong people.


I learned a huge lesson from that friendship. My friendship with “you” is not solely based on how you treat me, but more so you spend time when you’re not in presence.

Please do not get me wrong. I do not a holier than thou individual. On the contrary, but I am very selective as to I allow into my inner sanctum. I am guided by my favorite Bible scripture, Proverbs 13:20 which says, "He who walks with wise men shall be wise but a companion of fools shall be destroyed." If you have ever heard me speak, you know that I often repeat this verse in some form or fashion. When I am in a non-religious setting I simply say, "Birds of a feather flock together." Typically, I quote it to young people but I am amazed at how pertinent it is for adults, too.

Have I made mistakes by not surrounding myself with people who have my “best interest at hand”? Of course I have but it is far limited than what it used to be. For a while, especially when I was in my teens, I suffered from the "I-want-to-be-liked" syndrome. Fortunately, I grew out of it.

I have yellow streak down the middle of my back that is a mile long in terms of the company that I keep. You can say a lot of things about Kelvin Redd (I know, third person), but you can never say that you’ve seen me hanging around the wrong people.
That ain't going to happen. I value myself too much to allow destructive people in my inner sanctum.

What about you? Do you surround yourself with wise men (or women)—people who have your best interest at hand?


  1. Kelvin,

    This is an awesome word! The bible also tells us that "Iron sharpens iron." I am careful also about people that I allow into my inner circle. Usually,if they have a problem being happy for others, I stay away from them. They will only have their own interests at heart. I enjoy sharing in the successes of others, as though whatever they celebrate has happened to me. This is the love that Christ wants us to have. There are enough blessings to go around. There is no need to be jealous or envious of our brothers and sisters. This is a powerful word! Continue to be wise!

  2. Thank you for the words of encouragement.