Monday, September 17, 2012

Opposites Attract

If you have attended one of the many workshops that I have presented, you probably heard me say, “Most people think that everyone is supposed to think like me, and if you don’t think like me, there is something wrong with you.”

This could not be further from the truth. In fact, if a person thinks this way, it shows a lack of self-awareness. We are all different, and the person who recognizes the differences in others is the one who is on the self-awareness journey.

We typically, but not always, engage in a serious relationship with our complete opposite because these people compliment us. Where we are weak they are strong. Where we are strong they are weak. Yes, opposites do attract.

Whenever I present an Emergenetics workshop and one of the participants is an extrovert, I like to say, “Is your significant other an introvert?” Nine times out of 10 the response is a resounding yes. Or, if I have a dominant left brain thinking participant, I like to ask, “Does your significant other fit the characteristics of the dominant right brain thinking profile?” Again, the answer is usually yes.

Now, it must be noted that when I say opposites or complimentary, I mean thinking and behavioral attributes.

The complimentary part is only accentuated if the two people have things in common. For instance, it could be that both of you attended the same university, you are both frugal, love to travel, and love sports (even the same teams).  

One thing Emergenetics doesn’t measure is character. If you and your significant other have many things in common and he or she is of good character, consider yourself blessed. What more could you ask for?

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