“In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.” – Albert Schweitzer
It is nice to have a good friend—someone to share in your praises. And someone to confide in during tough times. That special person who is a confidant and won’t tell the world your business.
I am not talking about an enabler. Have you ever heard of a “yes-man”? Well, an enabler is a “yes-friend.” This person tells you what you want to hear. With them, when you are right, you are right. When you are wrong, you are still right. This is the one type of friend who can lead you down a path of destruction.
A friend is someone who tells you the truth. It does not matter the circumstances. I am fortunate in this manner. I have a couple of friends who do not mind correcting me when I am wrong. I like that. It is one of the few things that ensures my growth to a higher self.
Finally, it is easy to find a friend when you are doing well. The mark of true friend, however, is one who is there for you when the message of misery visits your bedside (meaning mentally or emotionally). There is nothing like receiving a phone call or an email that says, “How are you doing?” or “I am just checking on you.” There is nothing more demoralizing than having to go down the path of emotional hell than by yourself.
Says Oprah Winfrey, “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”