Thursday, March 1, 2012

You Are Such A Jerk!

“You just don’t get it.”
“That’s a dumb question.”
“You shouldn’t feel that way.”
“I can’t believe you said that.”

The second communication danger sign is invalidation.

The definition of invalidation is "to reject, ignore, mock, tease, judge, or diminish someone's feelings. It is an attempt to control how they feel and for how long they feel it."

Invalidation can take on many forms. It can be subtle, obvious, or extreme.

Have you ever witnessed invalidation in your work environment? As the leader, do you allow invalidation in your office?


  1. I have seen this occur throughout my work history. In many cases it will shut down the individual who made the comment or statement and this hindering the workplace as they may become withdrawn and not share their ideas or knowledge. They may also become that negative person that can spread negativism which can develop into conflicts amongst employees and adminastration. In any case as a leader you should have in place a variety of strategies to handle this type of issue as they may occur often.

  2. Anonymous, you are so right. Nothing saps a person's self-esteem more than being invalidated. I have seen it often, too. However, I choose to allow it to motivate me. Thanks for your response. I hope to hear from you again soon.